We love seeing friendships form on our site—but sometimes people can cross lines, maybe even without meaning to. This guide is here to help you stay comfy and confident online. If something ever feels “off,” you should know what to look for and how to get help.
When to Trust Your Gut
Good connections grow at a relaxed pace, with both people feeling free and safe. If you ever notice yourself thinking:
“Huh, that felt strange…”
“Why did they ask me that?”
“I feel like I can’t tell anyone else…”
—pause for a moment. Those “icky” little feelings matter.
Warning Signs
Below are some common ways someone might accidentally—or on purpose—make you feel uneasy. Spot any of these? You’re not overreacting.
- Too Personal, Too Quick
Someone shares big secrets or deep feelings before you’ve had a chance to really get to know each other. - Secret Chats & Hidden Messages
They ask you to move the conversation off-site, delete messages, or keep things “just between us.” - Nonstop Compliments or “Gifts”
While a kind word is nice, constant flattery, virtual presents, or promises of help can feel like pressure. - “Only You” Talk
Phrases like “You’re the only one who understands me” or “No one else cares about you like I do.” - Discouraging Other Friends
Saying “They don’t get you,” or “You shouldn’t hang out with them” can isolate you from everyone else. - Poking Around Private Details
Asking for your age, address, private photos, or personal passwords before you’re ready. - Downplaying Your Discomfort
If you say “That made me uncomfortable,” and they respond “You’re too sensitive” or “It was just a joke.”
What You Can Do
- Pause & Take a Breath
It’s okay to slow down or step away from the chat. Your comfort comes first. - Save a Screenshot or Copy Messages
A picture is worth a thousand words—keep evidence of anything that felt strange. - Report
Send your screenshots or text to SudoModMail or [email protected], and we’ll take a look into it. You can also report content on the website or from Flipnote Studio.
Make sure to include Flipnote, Chat Message, or Comment IDs. - Talk to Someone You Trust
A friend, family member, teacher, or another adult can help you figure out your next steps.
You’re in Charge
- You set the pace. You don’t owe anyone quick answers or personal details.
- You choose who you share with. Real friends respect your boundaries.
- You deserve kindness. Always.